Whole new world

So since my last post some months ago - everything, and I mean everything, has changed.

I was planning to post something sooner but I will explain why I haven't.

Firstly, my fiance's father passed away suddenly. It was a shock for everyone, unexpected and heartbreaking, even more so as the cause was unknown.

That alone would put planning a wedding to the back of your mind. But in addition, my fiance's sister had a baby which was 3 month premature the day after the funeral.

Yes, I know... a lot to take in within a matter of a few weeks. A revolving door of life.

The baby, just 1lb10z, is growing slowly and each day looks more promising.

I say planning a wedding was put to the back of our minds but in a way it has been a bit of therapy - we had a planned meeting with our reception venue two days after my father-in-law to be passed away. But my fiance wanted to keep it and we even sat and did some other planning one afternoon, to try to focus on something other than the sad events.

It is a difficult time for everyone - and now our wedding will of course be bitter/sweet. But we are thinking of ways to remember his father to make sure he is still part of the day.

We had decided finally after much too-ing and fro-ing to marry in London, not New York, for various reasons, one being that maybe my fiance's father wouldnt be able to travel that far if is health took a turn for the worse. Ironic in a way but we are sticking to our choice, and selected our Save the Date cards.

We had shown his father a sample of a match box Save the Dard card (see photo) by Pretty Wild Design and he loved it.

So in light of events we decided to go for it and ordered them. So many people have remarked on them - one person said they were the best Save the Dates ever - So my fiance's father obviously had good taste! We are also in the process of designing our own invitations - his father will be incorporated in that too. More on that another time.

It is making us creative - and keeping his dad involved is comforting for me, so I hope even more so for my fiance. We can begin to enjoy planning our special day, happy in the knowledge his father would be excited for us - and that he will be part of the day in some shape or form.

So everything has changed, we lost a member of the family, gained another. Life can be cruel but it has to make us stronger and perhaps make us focus on what is important.

In the mean time, Im off to National Wedding Show next weekend - so hoping for some more creative inspiration!